As we live in this world, a lot could happen to us - both bad and good. And sometimes we may come across the wrong people who use us to their advantage, and our trust for people can fade instantly. When you come across such people, you must go through a restoration phase whereby you practice trusting people again.
Now this does require you to do a couple things. One is to intentionally place yourself in a more productive, healthier environment (going to church rather than a pub) so that you have a greater chance of meeting people who would not easily turn their backs on you. Then you build a meaningful relationship with those you deem trustworthy to the best of your ability. Yes, worries will definitely resurface. For instance, you may think, 'What if he's talking behind my back?' 'What if she's flirting with someone else' 'What if my best friend likes other people more than me' 'What if my girlfriend grows attracted to another guy?' You may be conjuring up these questions because your whole mind/psyche is founded on doubt and skepticism.
But, it's okay. Anything can improve with practice. You can learn to replace this unhealthy thinking with the positive ones:
'I am glad he's interacting healthily with others,'
'I am glad she is involved in a healthy community. Talking to various people is a necessary process for growth and stress relief'
'I am glad my best friend has other good friends so he can rely on others when I am not available'
'I trust that my girlfriend will not cross boundaries'
These simple monologues can significantly improve your mental health, and it also helps greatly with your relationship with others because you are at ease and at peace around them.
Last thing to note. Keep in mind, "innocent until proven guilty" as well as "give benefit of the doubt".
Also, have confidence in God. We know for a fact he is on our side and his plans are perfect. Though people may betray and leave us, we know God doesn't.
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