Regardless of whether it's relationships or friendships, I want to emphasize that it is important to form deeper bonds with those whom you can trust. We are sometimes easily drawn by people who have lots going on in their lives even though they might not be the most trustworthy. I want to point out the fact that the reason you find yourself not trusting certain people is because they have not put in the effort to earn your trust through their actions and through the ways they carried themselves. So do not second guess yourself in this aspect.
If you continue to build deeper bonds with those whom you can't trust, it will begin to ruin you because you now begin to imagine bad things that could happen to you as a result of their disloyalty or backstabbing. And the longer this goes on, the crazier you become in terms of conjuring up all sorts of worst-case scenarios. Now, if this becomes your habit and your normal way of thinking, you will portray and exhibit that same skepticism and doubts to even those you can fully trust. This is really bad, because the ones who have shown full loyalty and trust to you are only being responded with what they don't deserve: skepticism and doubt. Now you can't even have a normal, healthy relationships with the very people that are worth spending the rest of your lives with. The sad reality is that the "crazy" we see in some people's eyes may very well come from their inability to form deep bonds with those they can trust.
With all this said, learn to form deeper bonds with those that are deserving of your emotions, and learn to distance yourself from those who do not give you a sense of peace, trust and loyalty. And in order to do so, you must have standards that are solid and rooted in the truth. For instance, if people continue to lie to you, however big or small, they probably don't deserve your bonds and emotions. If they keep saying nice things to you but makes you feel empty in the end, they also probably don't deserve your attention. Learn to distance yourself before too much time passes by because we all know that the more time you spend with someone, the more attached you become and it becomes difficult to get out of the relationship in spite of all the hurts they may impose on you.
The moral of the story is this: putting full trust in clearly disloyal people is an act of folly and will make you crazy. So, don't do it.
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